Wow, I can see aspects of myself in each of these descriptions.

Currently, I am running in Enemy mode on one particular issue. I just can't get one of my guys to give me what I need no matter how many times I asked. In the end, I did it myself since I got fed up with asking and not getting what I required.

I tried having a 1-on-1 with the individual to see why he and I were having so much trouble. He didn't see us as having any kind of communication problem.

I was surprised.

I thought my irritation over recent issues was clear enough.

Obviously I am not communicating clearly enough.

And this is why, with this individual, on this specific issue, I have become The Enemy.

Generally, I try to be The Illuminator. Sometimes I succeed.