Really nice article! I believe what he describes is a typical mental configuration for nerds. I would add that this may not be the only nor the best configuration for the nerd. There may be additional "highs", and stronger motivational drives which can fuel the nerd. These higher levels may require some experimentation in order to develop a useful foothold.

I think the nerd may be attempting to remove his own blind spots to the awareness of love in his life. This may be realized in the form of "being pleasantly surprised". By consciously deciding to work towards this end, for others and for oneself, the nerd may be able to more often achieve higher highs while also including others in their consideration.